I've vetted tens-of-thousands of books, screened a few thousand of those with my kids, and have extensive notes on all of them. Trust me - if I sent you a book list, it would be so overwhelmingly useless.
The reason BFL is so popular is that I curate the books for you. Depending on your background, the ages of your kids, and where you are on the spectrum of 'Not all men,' and 'I'm not racist,' to 'Let's set things on fire and smash the kyriarchy,' different books are going to be empowering, problematic, or even harmful in your hands.
I haven't yet met a reader who has managed to read every single book I've written about, and I've only had time to write about less than 5% of the topics we need to discuss.
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Okay, I know this isn't a question, but I get this A LOT.
Content warning: Teen suicide, pearl clutching.
From a one of my many critics:
My goodness, how can we expect three and four year olds to take such responsibilities at such a tender age. Children learn by example. Discrimination and misogyny is transmitted by adults to young children. It’s the responsibility of the adults around them to set the right behavioral examples. To burden such tender minds with the sins of so many generations before them is unfair. No wonder so many teens have trouble coping with their lives and end up committing suicide.
- Mercedes Borzyskowski, commenter on Captivating Kids Stories To Recognize Privilege
How can we expect three- and four-year-olds to survive in a country where their parents’ partners are murdered during a routine police stop for a broken tail light, at such a tender age? I suppose that’s Diamond Reynolds’ daughter’s problem, not ours.
Children form implicit (unconscious) bias from infancy – even when our parents don’t consider themselves ‘racist.’
Click here for only one of many, many sources, explaining the damage of relying on color-blindness and oblivion to keep wealthy white folks happy at the expense of the rest of us. (I found that one on google in less than 15 seconds, you do the rest yourself.)
Even if our kids aren’t watching biased TV news showing Trayvon Martin, a child victim of gun violence as a ‘hooded thug,’ the bias embedded in our culture is everywhere – from the toy aisles of Wal-Mart to the cartoons and children’s books we read.
Children learn by example – and the examples we set in the world, choosing to clamp our hands over our ears and shut our eyes tight for the sake of those tender (white, male, cis, etc.) young ears is a direct act of ignorance and violence against children who have no choice but to deal with the fallout of denying inequity.
These sins of violence, casual discrimination, and oppression do not just belong to previous generations. The sins belong to my parents’ generation and my parents take responsibility for that. The sins belong to my generation, and I own that responsibility, too. The sins belong to my children’s generation, and you bet your pearls my sons are both eager and competent enough to fight for equality.
The ONLY way to fix inequality is to acknowledge something is broken and step up. Reading books about homeless children and fostering open discussion on how we can avoid judging and actively help families facing this hardship is our responsibility as decent human beings.
Citing child suicide as an excuse for sitting still while our children harm others is irresponsible, derailing, and dismissive. It’s cruel to drag this trauma into the conversation for anyone who has suffered the loss of a child or loved one in the name of a pearl-clutching ‘Oh think of the childrens!’ arguments. I’m not even going to rip that flawed argument to shreds because the incidences of discrimination, dismissal of mental illness, and other societal factors that force a child to resort to suicide are so blatantly at odds with the idea of raising our children to become kinder and more responsible.
Since my oldest is 6, I avoid recommending anything for age groups I can’t personally vouch for.
However, many of our readers are parents of pre-teens, and are even college professors who use our work to demonstrate the topics we discuss. The picture-book format makes for a short and easy lesson.
Also I'm not sure if you know this, picture books are nailing it these days. Some of them have a depth of complexity and the kind of stunning art you want to frame and hang on your wall.
(If you consider yourself too cool/old/mature for picture books, you're probably really boring. I'm so sorry for your boringness. Sad face. )
Jokes aside - we focus on picture books and reading with young kids to take advantage of anti-child bias and the ageism embedded in western society. The topics we discuss are radical, but we slip in under the radar of white supremacists, incels, and eugenicists, because they think a few exhausted parents and their little kids aren't a threat.
But oh. We are a threat. We got some Sun Tzu battle-strategy up in here.
I so want this to happen.
But in order to set that up, I'm going to need to invest a LOT of time setting up a shopify store on our website, connecting with my favorite illustrators and artists, and vetting merchandising companies that offer accessible items for a wide range of body sizes and disabilities.
For that to happen, we're going to need way more Patreon supporters so I can afford to put in that footwork and/or a volunteer to help.
If you'd like to volunteer your skills, contact me and we can blanket the world in stickers and toddler hoodies - calling for the dismantling of the kyriarchy and the benefits of broccoli.