Family Movie Night Recap

Onward

Family Movie Night
PROBLEMATIC TROPES TO UNPACK AS A FAMILY

Welcome to the Family Movie Night Series

Every month we watch & recap a children’s movie with the Earthquakes and unpack the sneaky media tropes that reinforce bigotry, supremacy, and problematic devices.

Healthy masculinity & brotherly love in

Onward

Originally screened with R2 (age 6) & Q (age 8)

Spoilers Ahead!

Update: This post is imported from our original post in the LBT Facebook group.

I’m gonna try whatever the equivalent is of a live-tweet event, but I’m gonna rent the movie Onward tonight and watch it with my kiddos.

And I’ll just add a running stream-of-consciousness commentary below if anything interesting and worth commenting happens.

Just for fun! And because I am hesitantly excited about this movie!

LET THE MOVIE COMMENCE!

  • Okay like 3 seconds in and the cat has already stepped on the keyboard.
  • R2 (who has a thing about unicorns): “THERE WAS A UNICORN! ME! I’m a unicorn and I’m in this movie!” 
  • Now the unicorn is eating trash and R2 is less excited.
  • He’s like, personally offended.
  • Q, who has a thing for dragons, is like “Bad dragon?!”
  • I really appreciate the clutter in this kitchen. This is my house.
  • Well, a neater version of my house.
  • Also digging the mombod. I feel seen.
  • Nathan really appreciates that the nerdy one is NOT the one who likes DnD. Because he’s a nerd and likes DnD
  • R2, who is wearing a three year old shredded tie dye shirt, is like “He is leaving the house with a RIP in his sweatshirt!”
  • We had to bribe him to with this movie to take a bath.
  • Day 1 of driving school. First thing, get on the highway. This is exactly how my mom taught me how to drive.
  • OMG NORMALIZED ARM CRUTCHES
    The big purple guy in the cool kid group has arm crutches!!!!
  • I am LOVING these hair textures
  • Both of my kids are critiquing the older brother’s driving skills.
  • I admire this kid’s dedication to lists.
  • Dudes sewing, yesss. normalizing handicrafts for boys!
  • Are we seeing magic as an allegory for healthy masculinity here? If so I am totally here for it.
    ::crossing fingers::
  • Aww this disembodied legs situation is making me tear up.
  • We are currently trying to explain the concept of a mix tape to the kids.
  • Which requires the explanation of a cassette. I feel like this is getting off track. (did I make a pun? was that a pun?)
  • I love how positive and supportive Barley is of everything his little brother does.
  • A less supportive brother might have been like “WTF you messed up resurrecting dad!” But nope he’s just here to help.
  • Seeing people in a restaurant is making me weirdly nostalgic for unpleasant trips dining out with my kids. Feels like a different world.
  • Last night I watched a show where two people hugged to say goodbye and it felt WEIRD to see people touching.
  • The manticore’s hair is perfect. Wild & unruly when she’s fully in herself
  • I like this reasonable discussion on which path to take. Modeling healthy discussions without fighting, based in reason!
  • This fast-thinking mom is awesome.
  • Not sure how I feel about the sanism, but I guess it’s just the cop making the ‘bonkers/loco’ whistles and they are just working around him. I guess that’s a discussion we’ll have to have with the kids after the movie about the presumption of mental health issues.
  • Wondering if I can leverage this scene about backseat driving when it comes to growing the gas can into convincing the 7yo to stop mansplaining to his little brother.
  • The cyclops cop is a lesbian! “My girlfriend’s daughter’s got me pulling my hair out”
  • I do like these subtle boops for diverse representation BUT I would really appreciate if one of the main characters had a disability instead of leaving arm crutches and stuff to background characters.
  • How does dadlegs know where they are to pull them into a makeshift dancefloor?
  • Also I really want a better look at that instruction guide on resurrection. I feel like we’re missing something there.
  • Q is just HORRIFIED at their terrible and irresponsible driving
  • “Don’t poison people to get out of hard conversations and get people to do what you want” – the things we have to say in the middle of a movie
  • “But it’s just temporary paralyzation and two people are gonna die so….” – Q
  • Okay fair point
  • THIS DUDE NEVER LOOKS AT THE ROAD
  • This thing where people on TV don’t look at the road while driving creates in me the same sort of rising horror as when folks just stand there with the fridge open letting all the cold out
  • I like this logic of knowing the worst that can happen so there’s nothing to be scared of. Imma use that later.
  • Barley is crying a little with fear watching his brother in danger across the bottomless pit, I like that.
  • If we’re continuing that magic allegory for healthy masculinity along with the decrees, I am super of loving this
  • Aww poor Guinevere
  • These unicorns are like a continuation of the Futurama owls gag
  • “What if this Phoenix gem is the one their dad already found and they’re just doing all of this for nothing?” – Q
  • okay he’s checking off the list of things he wants to do with his dad and realizing his brother was there for him to do these things and OHHHHH so good
  • I like this ladies swooping in to defeat the monster
  • Aww Ian sacrificing his ability to see his dad so Barley could say goodbye. That’s so good!
  • I feel like this will give us lots of good discussions for the Earthquakes in terms of supporting each other as brothers
  • But also they totally could have included more folks with disabilities
  • Q liked the movie, but his critique: It was too short, and ended
  • R2 liked how he “goed in the sewers and went through all of that just to the same place he could have found before.”
  • > METAPHORS <
  • Nathan enjoyed it. I enjoyed it. That was a great movie!

2022 Updates

‘Onward’ totally holds up and the kids enjoy it on an even deeper level now that they’re 7 & 9.

This week R2 picked ‘Onward’ – and Q waxed nostalgic about how this was the first movie we watched for Family Movie Night.

Two years ago it was a way to break up the 24/7 monotony of home isolation, a silver lining ritual to get us through the horror of the pandemic.

But I want to make sure this is still a helpful resource. It’s been almost 2 years since we started our (mostly) weekly Family Movie Night series.

How is it going? Should we continue it?

Or do you think it’d be better to declutter our feeds and focus on other resources?

(Which is fine if it’s helpful, but exhausting if I’m mostly getting back just deadpan silence.)

So I’m checking in with you guys – is this series actually helpful or entertaining?

Comment below to let me know if/how this series is helping you through tedium of raising kinder, more courageous kiddos.

If folks find that this helps us scaffold hard discussions with our kids, makes us laugh, or helps us feel less alone, we can continue…onward!

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