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Luminary Brain Trust Self-Care

20-Day Challenge

Monthly Accountabili-Buddies Collaboration

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Accountabili-Buddies Challenge!

Stretch our courage muscles & develop the discipline of kindness. One tiny action every day adds up to long-term transformation.

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Did you biff it for a few days - or even the whole month?

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What small challenges have you managed to work through this month?

Show us what's possible and celebrate with us!

Guidelines & FAQ


Intrigued? Confused? Add your questions below.

  • Most of us put our own mental health and physical health second to those we love. This is selfish martyr-y nonsense, and it has to stop.
  • To ignite the next generation of kind & courageous humans, we have to sustain ourselves as a resource.
  • This means honing patience, mindfulness, and the discipline to maintain a grip. We care for our mental health because everyone we care about relies on us to manage our own baggage.
  • This also means caring for our bodies and the spaces we inhabit. We can’t perform at our best if we’re neglecting our bodies and tripping over piles of crap.
  • So let’s get our shit together by developing one small habit every month.
  • And let’s have fun with it.


  • Our Accountabili-buddies Challenges are hosted on google spreadsheets. (Register for a free google account if you haven’t already).
  • Sign up for our next challenge by adding your name and goals to an empty column in our Upcoming Challenge spreadsheet.
  • There’s no ‘right way’ to fill out the column. You can use this month’s sheet for inspiration if that’s helpful, or ask questions below.
  • Set a reminder to check in daily starting on the first day of our challenge. Set an alarm on your phone, email yourself, and mark your calendar.
  • Then join us daily during the challenge to track your progress and cheer our friends on!
  • Start small!
  • Smaller than that!
  • and get hyper-specific
  • Don’t drink 4 glasses of water a day. Drink two ounces of water every morning.
  • Don’t go for a 1-mile walk. Put your sneakers on after your morning coffee.
  • Don’t meditate 30 minutes every day. Sit in your favorite chair for 1 minute after dropping the kids off at school.
  • Think of the easiest trigger habit you’d have to establish in order to develop an expert discipline in 10-15 years.
  • This month is about starting.


  • When we fail to meet our daily objectives, it’s most often because:

  • 1. We tried to do too much
    Reduce that 10-sit-up challenge to a 1-sit-up challenge.
  • 2. We didn’t account for interruptions and obstacles with contingency objectives
    Can’t putter in the garden while away from home? Step outside for 3 minutes.
  • 3. We got sick or had a family or work emergency
    Let yourself off the hook, or pick a challenge you can take on even when you’re exhausted.
  • Remember we’re building self-care habits so we can get a grip. Not beat-yourself-up habits to add to your busy day.
  • If your daily tasks feel like a punishment and aren’t helping you feel more patient and relaxed, pick a different challenge.
  • Failing and sharing what we learned – this is good mentorship! Congratulations – head over to the Friday Failure Party and share your wisdom.
  • Absolutely! Life happens, and it’s totally cool to adjust your challenge as we go to make it more accessible. The point is to show up for each other ❤
  • This 30-day challenge is about developing a healthy habit that sharpens you into a well-oiled weapon of mass-awesomeness.
  • We’re here to try something new, cheer each other on, and learn what we need to prepare so we can maintain the most formidable tool in our kyriarchy-smashing arsenal – our badass bodies and brilliant minds.
  • If you want. But it’s less motivating. So try it out.
  • But I’d recommend just signing up for the next challenge and waiting so you can make the most out of those ‘fresh start feels’

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