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Consent & Boundaries

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C is for Consent - Morrison, Eleanor Let's Talk About Body Boundaries, Consent and Respect: Teach children about body ownership, respect, feelings, choices and recognizing bullying behavi - Sanders, Jayneen That Uh-Oh Feeling: A Story about Touch - Cole, Kathryn

Keep an open dialogue going so kids know body discussions and boundaries are never taboo and they can always come to a trusted adult (you, but also find someone not in your family whom they can go to for help) with concerns or questions.

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  • For generations, the dominant rule for generations was that we train vulnerable people on how to avoid being harassed. But we don’t train people with power how to not harass others. Why is that? How does it feel when someone assumes they can touch you without consent?
  • Even though boys and men are often targets of abuse and sexual violence, it’s common to disregard masculine people when someone violates their boundaries. Why is that? How does it feel when you report a difficult experience and no one seems to care?
  • Strangers will often touch people in targeted groups in public – such as feminine people, people with physical disabilities, and pregnant people, as if they are objects or communal property. Why is that? How does it feel when people treat your body like it belongs to them?
  • White people often comment on the hair of people of color, and will often touch our hair without consent. Why do they feel entitled to do that? How does it feel when strangers touch your hair? How does it feel when people ask inappropriate things and you’re not sure what they will do when you say ‘no’?
  • Strangers often feel entitled to touch our accessibility devices and other extensions of our bodies – like wheelchairs. Why is that? How does it feel when people touch your body?
  • Why do we wear masks in public spaces when we’ve been exposed to contagious, even if we don’t think we are sick? When people with contagious diseases refuse to wear a mask near you, how does it feel?
  • Why do we cover our faces when we cough and sneeze? How does it feel when someone coughs or sneezes in your face?
  • Why do we wash our hands after using the rest room and before eating? How does it feel when someone uses the rest room without washing their hands, and then touches your things?

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I’ve been thinking about consent and how often I just sort of scoop up my almost 4-year-old without asking. I will be working on that.

 

There’s so much he can do on his own but I tend to jump in way too quickly. Fortunately, he lets me know with his body language and words. It reminds me of the conversation you and Bellamy were having about receiving feedback from our kids.

 

Loving the podcast, especially ‘Good Ideas to Avoid.’

Rachel G., Parent Activist Incubator Member

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Hi, I’m Ashia, founder & Head Custodian of Infodumpery for Raising Luminaries.

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