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Patience & Persistence

Patience - Staying focused on what really matters to us when we're faced with frustration and difficulty.

Persistence - Choosing to keep working toward our goal when we face setbacks and obstacles.

False Urgency - A trick to distract you from your goal by convincing you that you must take care of a less important problem right away or else - something bad will happen or you could miss out on something great.

SMASH THE KYRIARCHY

Why Act Now?

As activists, we work to change the unfair rules and how our community treats our most vulnerable members. This is big work - and can take many years (or generations) to create the change we want to see.

Many people disagree with us, and like the rules we see as unfair. Some want the same changes as us - but believe the way we create change is wrong. Many misunderstand the changes we want, and most people don’t even know about the unfairness. People who want to stop and slow our work oppose our activism - creating setbacks and obstacles that will exhaust and frustrate us.

Instead of letting opposition and obstacles wear us down and give up, we  weaponize patient persistence.

To keep going even if our work doesn’t create change right away. To keep going even when it seems like we will never succeed. Our elder activists have shown that persistence and patience is vital to big change - and we are up to that challenge.

Bending Toward Justice: A Family Action Toolkit

Cultivating Patience Through Long Term Change For Activist Kids

If we don't care about an issue, we won't take action. Kids have the right to choose curiosity-provoking resources that connect with our values and abilities.

1. SPARK CURIOSITY

Engage

Learn how this issue impacts us and the people we care about.

2. ASK QUESTIONS

Discuss

Process with adults who are willing to be honest and challenge our assumptions.

3. SET INTENTIONS

Reflect

Transform what we've learned into hands-on creativity.

4. CREATE CHANGE

Act

Step into our power with kid-friendly acts of service.

STEP 1: 5 MINUTES

Spark Curiosity: Pick One Story

Which stories and videos make you interested in learning more about this issue?

Which would you recommend to other kids? Add your own suggestions in the comments below.

Babies + Toddlers

Calm

CHOSEN BY KYRIARCHY-SMASHING KIDS

Best Kids Stories About Patience

STEP 2: 10 MINUTES

Make It Personal: Ask Questions

Ask & answer these questions with an adult who you trust to be honest with you..

When...

When's the last time you got frustrated waiting for something you really wanted?

How did you get those frustrated feelings out?

How do you want to react the next time you get frustrated?

Who...

Who worked hard so you could live safer and happier today?

What opposition did they face?

How did they deal with big feelings and frustration through setbacks?

How...

When do you find yourself rushing through your activities?

What are you afraid will happen if you don't rush?

How does rushing change how well you do these activities?

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STEP 3: USE WHAT YOU HAVE

From Theory To Real-World: Creative Reflection

Time to move from theory to reality. Use creative play to integrate what we've learned, take responsibility, and own what's within our control.

Toddlers+

Patience is Tasty

Cook a pot of pasta (quick), lentils (quick-ish), or dried beans (slow).

Taste the food early, middle, and late in the cooking process.

How does waiting change how tasty our food is?

What else gets better with time?

Pre-K+

DIY Sensory Bottles

Create sensory bottles to shake up when you're frustrated and soothe yourself as the glitter settles.

Bonus points if you can create your own non-recyclable plastic confetti from the bin instead of filling the world with more non-biodegradable glitter.

Elementary+

Air-Dry Bear Bowls

Create TWO cute bear bowls out of air-dry clay.

Paint one bowl and use it before the clay has dried.

How is finishing the bowls different depending on whether you wait for the clay to cure?

RAISING LUMINARIES

Hi, I’m Ashia, founder & Head Custodian of Infodumpery for Raising Luminaries.

I create free tool kits to help overworked caregivers ignite the next generation of leaders.

ABOUT | MISSION | FINANCIALS | ACCOUNTABILITY

Published: Last Updated on

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IT'S STILL OKAY TO LAUGH

Hard conversations with humor & joy

Every month the Luminary Braintrust tackles a new member challenge to make talking about social justice easier in real life.

STEP 4: ASSESS YOUR CAPACITY

Step Into Your Power: Take Action

Learning and talking is great - but nothing will change until we take action. Whether it's time, money, or influence - we all have something we can share to change the world.

This is who we are. This is the power we hold. This is how we show up.

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Train Young Girls & Femmes To Win Elections

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if you have 10 minutes

Create a Long + Short-Term Action Plan

Map out your priorities alongside your kids. What's your family's single, most important long term goal? What short-term tasks will you dedicate yourself to get there? How will you react to setbacks?

If you have 5 friends

Amplify & Boost

Share this toolkit with 5 friends who would appreciate your help tackling these topics as a family.

DIG DEEPER

Bonus Resources

Share what worked for your family (and what didn't).

Add the resources you suggest in the comments below to help families like yours.

VIDEO

The Marshmallow Study, Revisited

More on how adult reliability impacts kids' ability to stay patient and persevere.

via The University of Rochester

CHOOSE YOUR ADVENTURE

Family Action Resilience Toolkit

By staying tenacious and resilient, we can keep working together toward the future we want.

Via Raising Luminaries

DISCUSS

How Does False Urgency Cloud Your Judgement?

Join me as we unpack a new aspect of supremacy culture each month in our Luminary Braintrust community.

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I’m an Autistic, multiracial (Chinese/Irish) 2nd-generation settler raising two children alongside my partner on the homelands of the Wampanoag and Massachusett people. My goal with Raising Luminaries is to collaborate with families and educators in raising the next generation of kind & courageous leaders, so we can all smash the kyriarchy together.

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RAISING LUMINARIES

Hi, I’m Ashia, founder & Head Custodian of Infodumpery for Raising Luminaries.

I create free tool kits to help overworked caregivers ignite the next generation of leaders.

ABOUT | MISSION | FINANCIALS | ACCOUNTABILITY

Published: Last Updated on

SHOW YOUR SUPPORT

STAY IN TOUCH

Join the Benevolent Incendiary Society & get a free monthly email update with helpful book collections

Get free monthly email notifications when I add new resources to our Family Action Toolkits

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JOIN OUR COMMUNITY

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Posts may contain affiliate links and  sponsorships, which allow me to earn a commission at no extra cost to you.

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