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October Resource Roundup

Autumn Kids Books, Discussion Questions & Action Guides for Kyriarchy-Smashing Families

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This October we’re exploring and accepting loss, pain, and death

If we’re raising kind & courageous leaders, we’ve got to help them process loss and pain in a healthy way. 

If we wait until tragedy strikes, it’s gonna be a hot mess!

But if we give our kids the tools they need for proactive mental health care, our resilient kids will learn not just to survive pain, but to grow stronger, kinder, and more compassionate through hardship.


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Parenting is Praxis: October Edition

No one expects you to do it all – so pick one, or knit them together. Just keep pushing a tiny bit beyond your comfort zone and crack that noggin’ open just wide enough to let a little light shine in.

Below, we’ll cover:

Below each discussion guide, we include a short list of doable, family-friendly calls-to-actions.

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Significant Dates & Events in October

Let’s Learn About Indigenous Peoples Day

Coyote Columbus Story Go Show the world We are still here

Pay attention not just to how many stories of Indigenous culture you’re reading with your kids, but the era in which they take place.

If the stories we’re reading are always set in the past, of people long-dead, we’re just reinforcing a terminal narrative.

The myth of a terminal narrative tells us that there are no survivors of genocide.

A terminal narrative suggests there are no survivors, so there is no reason to change our behavior. This myth tells us – these are a dead people. What happened to them was terrible, but they are no longer here. This gives us an excuse to remain apathetic to ignore, dismiss, and to continue hurting people targeted by genocide.

A terminal narrative tells us that we have no obligation to learn from history, to take responsibility for the ways we continue to be complicit, or to seek justice – because what’s the use in seeking justice could exist for the dead?

And in the case of colonialism and Indigenous rights – the terminal narrative is a lie.

We fight by teaching our children that efforts to eliminate and extinguish Indigenous people and cultures were unsuccessful. Indigenous people have, and continue to – fight back, to resist, and to survive.

Indigenous people are still here. Still under attack. Still resisting.

When is it?

  • Annually on the second Monday of October



  • Coyote Columbus Story’ Guided Family Reading Questions
  • What stories and markers in your community (ex: historical markers) suggest that Indigenous people and cultures exist only in the past?
  • Who are the first peoples of the land your family calls home?
  • What does it mean to be Indigenous to a place?
  • See more discussion questions, along with a guided story to help kids, in the Indigenous Peoples’ Day Family Action Toolkit
  • What parts of colonization and genocide hurt to learn about?
  • What ideas are we clinging to because we’re afraid to admit our part in colonization?
  • What do we need to do to let go so we can build a safe home together here?

Take Action:

Additional resources to dig deeper into this topic:


Let’s Learn About National Coming Out Day & LGBTQiA2S+ History Month

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For LGBTQiA2S+ history month, let’s learn about some of the activists and resistors who fought so we could be free to be.

Within this month, the 11th is ‘National Coming Out Day.’  Take this day to remind kids that disclosing a stigmatized identity is a highly personal choice that should never be obligatory or coerced. We can show up and support our friends who decide to come out, on their own timeline, and show up and support friends who don’t feel comfortable doing so.

When is it?

  • National Coming out day falls annually on October 11



  • What does it mean to ‘come out?’
  • Why might we feel nervous about telling people our invisible identities?
  • If a friend chooses not to come out to us, how can we remember not to take this personally? What can we do to support them and help them feel safe either way?
  • Why is it important to get enthusiastic consent from a friend before disclosing their identity to others, even if they are ‘out’ in other spaces?
  • Why should we never pressure a friend into disclosing their targeted identity to others?
  • What ideas about gender, bodies, and sexuality are we clinging to, that we inherited from our families and the stories around us?

Additional resources to dig deeper into this topic:

Let’s Learn About Diwali & Bandhi Chhor Diwas

archie celebrates diwali ramayana: divine loophole Sita's Ramayana

Celebrated by Hindus, Jains, Sikhs, and Buddhists, the festivals of Diwali, Deepavali, and Bandhi Chhor Diwas (plus many other light-based festivals held in South Asia) fall on the same time of year and incorporate similar traditions, but have different origin stories depending on who is celebrating and how religious or secular they’re getting about it.

From what little I know, both Bandi Chhor Diwas and Diwali are a celebration of solidarity against tyranny and human-rights abuses, regardless of which religion you’re coming into it from. As a festival of lights, illumination as a symbol of knowledge and goodness in the face of ignorance and cruelty.

Until recently, it’s been hard to find a book on Diwali that wasn’t enthusiastically bigoted against darker-skin. (Still can’t find any books about the other festivals). It seems silly to read a book about the the Hindu Diwali without addressing of Rama’s defeat of Ravana and the return of Rama and Sita. However – in these picture books, folks go overboard with the visual metaphors, particularly those who have been raised to see darkness as ignorant/evil and whiteness as smart/good. In almost all of these illustrated stories, the good guys = light skinned and bad guys and peasants = dark skinned. Yeah, no thanks on the colorism.

It’s even header to find books on Diwali that don’t just gloss over the sexism in the original Ramayana. Some of the more modern books skip over the whole victim-blaming, chop off the inconvenient parts of the story, OR they treat Sita’s purity test as natural or ideal. Sita as a female object to be revered in virginity, captured like property, helplessly rescued, victim-blamed and slut-shamed for her implied rape, then self-martyred (what a way to sum up the expectations of women!)

Which is why I’m excited that my kids are getting old enough to dig into the harm of a narrow, over-simplified victim / savior / villain trope common in supremacist stories. We can finally pick through the sexism in the Ramayana and unpack it through modern feminist takes from Sita’s point of view.

So here are the books that don’t…do the colorism, at least.

When is it?

  • Lasts about five days, celebrated during the Hindu lunisolar month of Kartika, which falls around October or November.


  • Let’s Celebrate Diwali (ages 3-5) This is the first and ONLY story book that respects and upholds the faith of multiple Diwali-celebrating religions – without claiming any as the ‘right’ one.
  • Archie Celebrates Diwali (ages 3-7)
  • Ramayana: Divine Loophole (ages 9+) Patel took so many liberties with this retelling, but still kept the violence, and gross treatment of women. It’ll have to do for now. This is the most engaging intro to the Ramayana for English-speaking kids, but make sure to read alongside Sita’s Ramayana (ages 9+) as a counterpoint to the sexism.

Additional resources to dig deeper into this topic:


Let’s Learn About Halloween

A tiger called tomás Lila and the crowThe princess and the peanut allergy

There’s nothing more American than extorting neighbors and junk food, so let’s make the holiday inclusive for all. This year, let’s discuss how to make a Halloween night that accommodates folks with disabilities.

When is it?

  • Annually on October 21


  • A Tiger Called Tomás (ages 3+)
  • Lila and the Crow (ages 5-8)
  • The Princess and the Peanut Allergy (ages 3+)
    After all these years, I still haven’t found a better book to unpack fragility with kids. This one gives us an engaging enough story and an opportunity to differentiate between hurt feelings because someone is asking you to not put them in danger (inconvenience), VERSUS hurt feelings because someone who claims to care about you doesn’t care if you die (fear for your life!)

Discuss & Take Action

  • What traditions and assumptions about Halloween are we clinging to, that make this holiday inaccessible to some?
  • Which behaviors and ideas do we need to adjust or let go of so all our friends and neighbors feel welcome?

In A Tiger Called Tomás

In The Princess And The Peanut Allergy: Both friends have hurt feelings. How do we differentiate between:

  • Feeling resentful because we have to give up our preferences to accommodate a disability…
  • And/or and feeling unsafe when people prioritize cake flavors over our health and safety

Bonus Halloween Action

Additional resources to dig deeper into this topic:

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Monthly Explorations for October

Let’s Explore Disability History Month

We Move Together William Hoy Storyall the way to the top



  • How has the work of disability rights activists made your everyday life easier?
    • In the way your home is built?
    • In your favorite activities at school?
    • In how you play your favorite sports?
  • How are these spaces and activities still inaccessible to some people? What would it take to make them more accessible?
  • What obstacles are we afraid to run into if we tried to make these spaces more accessible?

Take Action

Additional resources to dig deeper into this topic:

Let’s explore Italian American Heritage Month

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When we advocated for the abolition of Columbus Day in our city, we met with vehement resistance from human-trafficking deniers. They used a well-worn map of excuses, usually within the same incoherent breath. They claimed Columbus never kidnapped, enslaved, tortured, or murdered anybody, that the evidence of his acts (including his own journal) were falsified. Or that if he did, it was excusable, because the Taíno people he killed were collateral damage creating a pleasant life [for white people] today.

Columbus Day was adopted as a federal US holiday US in 1968 as a half-assed apology about all the violence and discrimination against Italian Americans. This was a mile marker in welcoming Italian Americans into whiteness, to assure the population that Italian Americans shouldn’t be viewed as the other, but as a foundation of the American colonization experiment.

Back then, most Italian Americans had no idea what a shitty person he was, and the leaders of the movement were cool with fascism and Indigenous genocide. Built into the symbolism of inviting Italian Americans into whiteness, our government used the ultimate negative stereotype of a bloodthirsty, monstrous, and greedy invader who fed babies to dogs. Italian Americans who are less keen on authoritarian murder hobbies are horrified to be associated with the Columbus (who wouldn’t have called himself ‘Italian,’ in 1492, he would have identified as Genoese, and he wasn’t too popular even in his home nation). Most and understand Columbus a rogue asshole not representing any ethnicity or group identity, except for the club of ‘Genocidal Pieces of Shit.”

Even those who couldn’t deny the atrocities of Columbus and his men suggested that we have to keep the name and day, because was no longer tied to the man, but to modern Italian American identity. To abolish Columbus day is to abolish a federal holiday honoring Italian Americans. Even though very few people even know Columbus is claimed by some Italians. Keep in mind that no other ethnic group observes a bank holiday in their honor.

Most of this resistance comes from sunk costs – organizations such as the Knights of Columbus who rallied for Columbus Day now have to deny, dismiss, or excuse the actions or Columbus. Or (MY HEAVENS! ) have to do the courageous work of disavowing genocide, fascism, and murder. Or acknowledging they made a mistake glorifying a shit bag, or ::gasp:: do some paperwork to change their name.

Those who resist abolishing Columbus Day do so mainly out of fear.

For people who grew up with ‘Columbus’ as synonymous of Italian identity, how does this force us to examine our own roles in Indigenous genocide as colonists and settlers? What does it mean in terms of erasing the US history of anti-Italian xenophobia, redlining, and changing views on group identity? Especially if this change was thrust upon Italian Americans by non-Italians?

This is hard, and painful work, particularly for older generations who faced open anti-Italian discrimination first hand. We can’t just dismiss that.

That’s why so many Italian Americans resist the loss of Columbus Day. The US government basically said ‘We’ll stop hurting you because you’re like this one guy we know. You’re part of the in-group now.’ Now that they no longer have that one hookup – there’s a fear of losing the protection and privilege of whiteness. Many Italian Americans have an idea of what it’s like to be non-white in this country. It must feel like watching someone get eaten in a pit of lions – after climbing to a precarious ledge of safety – and someone is threatening to shove you back in.

Luckily, almost no one else in this country even knew about the link between Columbus and Italian Americans. So no worries, Columbus fans! You will still get all the privileges of whiteness that you’ve enjoyed for the past couple generations, even without a federal holiday.

But without Columbus and that particular flavor of adventure, capitalism, and colonization (still popular in our super hero action movies!), we really don’t celebrate or acknowledge Italian American culture beyond mobster stereotypes and pizza. So we need to fix that.

What does it mean to help our kids take pride in their Italian American heritage and culture, when we take away all the reductionist stereotypes and pizza jokes?



  • What stereotypes do we still find in popular media – including children’s books and movies? How do these comedic tropes create a sense of Italian Americans in proximity to whiteness, but still as the other, not the default human?
    (ex: Jersey Shore-esque organized crime family in Zootopia and all the handlebar mustached chef/plumber characters.)
  • What contributions have Italian Americans made to American culture?
  • Who are a few Italian Americans we admire? What do we admire about them?*
  • What cultural traditions and heroes did we love as kids, but have turned out to be kind of shitty?
  • If we’ve enjoyed traditions with harmful origins, how can we acknowledge that and move forward?
  • Has a hero you admire ever done something you disagree with? How did it feel?
  • Why are we afraid to admit when people we like or admire do bad things?
  • How do we find heroes and practices that better reflect our deeper values?

Additional resources to dig deeper into this topic:

*To mark Disability History Month & Italian American Heritage Month, with a side of healthy masculinity and radical kindness – I formally propose we observe DANNY DEVITO DAY.

Which I just googled, and apparently it’s already a thing. It’s November 17th. While there are no children’s books to read for the occasion, there are a surprising number of Danny Devito Coloring Books – all of which I assume must be inappropriate for younger kids.


Let’s explore Death Positivity

what i like mostDuck, Death and the tulip

Autumn is when we let things die. This is a good time to slow down, resist the capitalist drive to KEEP GOING AS FAST AS YOU CAN, and stop exhausting ourselves running away from scary things. Like death, loss, and all our fears of ‘what if…’

You can do this. You are tough, and smart, and you can do hard things.

Set aside an entire season to discuss our deepest fears, our worries about rejection and disaster, and to talk openly and honestly about death with our families. This practice gives kids space to process the feelings and concerns they might not feel comfortable bringing up when we’re busy running errands, completing chores, or go-go-going.



  • What if the things, relationships, or the people we love the most go away? How could we be still be okay?
  • What is death positivity? What is deathmisia?
  • How does our family view death? What death traditions does our family practice? Why?
  • How do we take things that ‘last forever’ for granted? How is the idea that something could last forever a myth?
  • When is it safe to talk about death? How can we build in times of the day or week to talk about fears we haven’t acknowledged or found words for?
  • What does it mean when something is irreversible?
  • When is permanence or change comforting, and when is it scary?
  • Why do American children’s stories avoid ending stories with death, tragedy, and irreversible loss – particularly the death of young, white, abled people?

Additional resources to dig deeper into this topic:

C is for Consent - Morrison, Eleanor Let's Talk About Body Boundaries, Consent and Respect: Teach children about body ownership, respect, feelings, choices and recognizing bullying behavi - Sanders, Jayneen That Uh-Oh Feeling: A Story about Touch - Cole, Kathryn

Keep an open dialogue going so kids know body discussions and boundaries are never taboo and they can always come to a trusted adult (you, but also find someone not in your family whom they can go to for help) with concerns or questions.



  • For generations, the dominant rule for generations was that we train vulnerable people on how to avoid being harassed. But we don’t train people with power how to not harass others. Why is that? How does it feel when someone assumes they can touch you without consent?
  • Even though boys and men are often targets of abuse and sexual violence, it’s common to disregard masculine people when someone violates their boundaries. Why is that? How does it feel when you report a difficult experience and no one seems to care?
  • Strangers will often touch people in targeted groups in public – such as feminine people, people with physical disabilities, and pregnant people, as if they are objects or communal property. Why is that? How does it feel when people treat your body like it belongs to them?
  • White people often comment on the hair of people of color, and will often touch our hair without consent. Why do they feel entitled to do that? How does it feel when strangers touch your hair? How does it feel when people ask inappropriate things and you’re not sure what they will do when you say ‘no’?
  • Strangers often feel entitled to touch our accessibility devices and other extensions of our bodies – like wheelchairs. Why is that? How does it feel when people touch your body?
  • Why do we wear masks in public spaces when we’ve been exposed to contagious, even if we don’t think we are sick? When people with contagious diseases refuse to wear a mask near you, how does it feel?
  • Why do we cover our faces when we cough and sneeze? How does it feel when someone coughs or sneezes in your face?
  • Why do we wash our hands after using the rest room and before eating? How does it feel when someone uses the rest room without washing their hands, and then touches your things?

Take Action

More Resources to dig deeper:

Listen to the podcast

I’ve been thinking about consent and how often I just sort of scoop up my almost 4-year-old without asking. I will be working on that.


There’s so much he can do on his own but I tend to jump in way too quickly. Fortunately, he lets me know with his body language and words. It reminds me of the conversation you and Bellamy were having about receiving feedback from our kids.


Loving the podcast, especially ‘Good Ideas to Avoid.’

Rachel G., Parent Activist Incubator Member

Listen to the Raising Luminaries episodes on consent & boundaries:


Little Feminist Book ClubDonate a Little Feminist Book Club subscription to your local school library to circumvent library budget-cutting.

Over the years, we’ve filled neighborhoods with books like All the Way to the Top and We Move Together.

October Calls To Action:

US Voters: 30 Seconds to make sure you’re registered to vote!

  1. Register to vote on the form below, or click here to register.
  2. Make sure your voter registration is still active (you may be surprised to see you’ve been recently unregistered without your consent!)
  3. Find out who is on your local ballot, and get a quick summary of issues and candidates.
  4. Find more helpful tools on Vote.org

Want to discuss voting with your kids? Check out our November Elections resource

You can register to vote and check your voter registration here. If this form doesn’t show up in your browser, click here.


5-Second Petition: Protect the Indian Child Welfare Act

On November 9th, the US Supreme court will hear a challenge against the Indian Child Welfare Act 

(enacted in 1978 to reduce the kidnapping of Indigenous children from their families and culture from acts of family separation & forced adoption and cultural genocide via residential schools!)

>> Sign this petition << to demand Biden take immediate action – up to and including an executive order to protect the sovereignty of Indigenous families and help Indigenous kids stay with their families and communities.

The current High Court has shown it will stop at nothing to destroy decades of civil rights advances. From women’s rights to Native sovereignty, it is dismantling much that progressives have fought long for and care most about. It’s clear we can no longer rely upon the Court to protect the liberty of the American people, much less uphold justice for tribal citizens. And until we can rely on Congress, our best remedy is the executive branch. Please send your email to President Biden today. Wopila!

via Lakota People’s Law Project




Calls to Action Families: Be Honest!

be honest with someone who has made a positive difference in your life


Think of someone positively special to you (who doesn’t live in your house!) and tell them how they make you feel and why.


I encourage grown-ups to think of someone unique to them and ask kids to come up with their own – this could be a teacher, librarian, cousin, friend, etc.


Sometimes we shy away from overly warm sentiments or it feels awkward to be so honest but one of the greatest acts of kindness is telling someone how valuable they are to you and others.


As a bonus, if you have the resources, ask the person you choose that you’d like to donate even a small amount to their favorite charity in their honor.

Shared with permission in cahoots with Revolutionary Humans!

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Join the 2023 Kyriarchy-Smashing Parent Virtual Winter Collective

What if we dropped all the busywork and bullshit and did something COMPLETELY DIFFERENT?!

In our 6-week guided collective, together we get into deep self-reflections and collaborative work that maximizes our impact without spreading overworked caregiver/activists so thin. Stop trying to be sputtering floodlights, let’s be diamond-cutting laser beams!

This kind of thing isn’t for everybody – if you think you’ve got it all figured out or that you’ve maxed out the punches on your Ally Card, this isn’t for you. But if you’re tired of being the most radically progressive parent in the room and could use some support balancing parenting & activism – come join us.

If you want to model a sustainable life for parents that smashes the kyriarchy without setting yourself on fire –  join the waitlist. Click through for dates, cost, time commitment, and how to decide if you’d like to join our next winter collective.






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Make it illegal to torture people with disabilities

(Yup! It’s still legal to literally torture us!)

Update 9/29/22: UGH we failed. Protection for people with disabilities got taken out of the FDASLA. Gonna lick our wounds and we’ll be back with more plans later.

Via the Autistic Self-Advocacy Network: Help #StopTheShock and end legal torture against people with disabilities

15-second action:

Text SIGN PQMAJC to 50409 or use this link on Resistbot  to quickly text a template letter to your senators in congress.

If you prefer to call, use this template from ASAN:

“My name is  [your full name] , and I am from  [your city]. I am a constituent of Senator [NAME].

I’m calling to ask Senator [NAME] to vote to pass the FDASLA Act, with the language included which bans the use of electric skin shock for behavior modification. This language passed the House, as well as the HELP committee.

Only one institution in the country still uses electric shocks this way, and the UN found the practice to be torture in 2013. The FDA banned this use of electric shocks in 2020, but the DC Circuit Court overturned the ban on a technicality.

The Senate has the power to stop electric shock torture through the FDASLA Act. Can I count on the Senator to vote yes on an FDASLA reauthorization that includes the ban?”

Why this action is urgent:

Our best chance to ban contingent skin shock for behavioral control is now at risk. Some Senators are pushing for a stripped-down version of the bill, without important amendments like the ban on contingent electric skin shock.

We can’t let them gut the bill’s vital provisions – with the clock ticking, we must convince the Senate that this language is critical to ensuring the human rights of people with disabilities.

We need one final push to #StopTheShock! The Senate aims to pass the FDA Safety and Landmark Advancements Act (FDASLA) before the end of the month – and it must have the amendment from the HELP committee banning the use of electric shock for behavior modification. We need a big push RIGHT NOW to let our elected officials know that this provision is critical to our community.”

Sign up for ASAN action alerts via email

Good Finds for October

Update: We’re now tracking classic good finds over here by recommended age and publish date.

You can keep track of great new finds as we add them to the in-progress best books of 2022 as well as our Autumn Favorites.


One more good thing…

[R2 at age 3 at peak butterfly fandom, wearing butterfly wings and waving around his new butterfly wand. He explains to us what it is, and ::whispers:: what it’s for…]




Stay Curious, Stand Brave & Smash the Kyriarchy

Remember that everything here – I made this for you. Cause you are important and you deserve safety, health, and support in the work you do.

Take this next 15 seconds and stop thinking about everyone else who needs your help. Accept that you also are an important person who deserves care and keeping.

I like you. You deserve good things.

With you,

– Ashia R.


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Ashia October 2, 2021 - 10:00 PM

Exciting! Sent you an email with more info 🙂

B October 20, 2022 - 4:14 AM

Thank you for the suggestions on death. Another one I love is Lifetimes. It gently and directly explains that each living thing has a lifetime; each living thing eventually comes to an end. Simple and beautiful.


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